Somebody's me!!!

After many tragic love stories of my life.... I have come to point that I ain't good at this relationship stuff!!!
at every relation failure I realised half way  I am making a mistake... and like every optimistic person I stood myself up and said "may be this wasn't gonna work!!!"
but then I guess I turned hostile for love, care and appreciation!!

I never thought I would be begging to God to send me angel who fly through my happiness, cry through my sadness and love me like madness!!!
and I know every person is begging the same right now!!
I guess I realised why people get married when they find their one!!
I realised why there is particular time to get married .... and that realisation made tragic questions untangled!!!

Why sudden realisation??
I was fortunate to witness what true love is, not my parents love, offcourse that I never really thought about before..... but a wonderful relation!!
I call myself lucky person for this!!

A boy, actually not very good looking boy!!
just a simple description to give a picture.
dark,tall... but with amazing eyes and smile and charming talk and totally chivalrous! which one won't get in first look!!

A girl, actually very good looking girl!
beautiful eyes, sexy and too kind and patient! oh and so bubbly even ranveer singh is nothing in front of her!!

and you can hear people say "she would have got much better boy" or "he is too lucky!!!" at their own wedding day!

And they are getting married...
how???
arrange marriage!!

She said she fell in love with him when she asked him one simple question
"do you love yourself like how you are?? do you wanna change something about it!"

he willing answered "I love every single thing about me but I am realising that I may forget about that one day I want someone with me who makes me realise that I love myself for being as I am!!! thats the change I want"

besides going awwww....
hear it out more....

she was MBA graduate with 50k salary at ASIAN PAINTS COMPANY working in mumbai...
he too MBA graduate with 50k salary but working in amravati basically a small town....

how was that manageable. ....

he just resigned from his job, because she loved her job and wanted to keep it. what would we call this a SACRIFICE!!!

some people will go oohhhh....he is such a sweetheart. .. he left his job for her...that is sweetest thing ever! !!!

but people where is your awwww.... for the girl who leave her whole family, just to go into another new family... leaving behind her mother who gave her birth, father who raised her like a princess! !!

no no no don't give me that BS !!!
don't blame this on tradition! !

try to appreciate everything your patner does for you!!

and that is the same thing he did for her....
because he knew he won't live forever With a guilt of making her leave her job so that she can be with him
instead he choosed a new job for himself in new city of mumbai so that he can be close to her!!!

its just perspective of how we look at this!

they are happily married and they know their priorities... they are soulmates...
he can't stop telling his wife how much he love her...
and she doesn't stop saying how embarrassing he looks when he say that!

I want that kinda relation... where everything will be real in it... and peace, happiness and love will be the mission!

then I knew relationship is all about knowing each others dreams, love and care about the same. ...
appreciating our patners need and aspirations and helping them fulfil them despite being of any gender!!!

I am totally into getting married having beautiful children. and then I realised would, someone willing to do something for me despite it won't be good for him!!

I desperately pray to god.. find me the guy that I will be happy to be with, despite of colour, height and everything else that matters the least!!
I want a man who knows exactly how I m and vice versa!
I even will be okay if he is bald with no bank balance!
but has meaning to his own life that he desperately wants to share with the one who makes him feel loved, cared and respected!!!

😍😍😍😚😚😚

Marriage.

Marriage.

Born in India, be a boy or a girl, once you hit the age 24, the only question around you seems legit is “When are you getting married?”

You might be dating (in relationship), or you might be single. You have compulsion to answer that question.

Okay, so you choose not to answer and ignore.

I am so proud of you, How do you do that? Can you please give me tips! Pretty please 🥺 

If you are in serious relationship and want to take it further then one good news for you people, you already completed stage 1, stage 2, lets wait for stage 3, which is approval of family! Ha ha ha! The justifiable marriage approval. 

Oh and then the last one, stage 4 - Badhai ho! You can now officially change your relationship status on Facebook to “forever and ever” or “Hitched for life” or “i fell for her/him” clichè captions!

But if you have recently broken up, or never worked out that long, or “teri wali/wala kisi aur ki/ka”types situation, or really Single, or the above stage 3 failed people, bless us mother Mary.

You have to go through stage 2 called “Arrange Marriage”

Okay now, few of you must be familiar with the stage already and for very fresh people 

Welcome to the Official Tinder process of marriage!

If you still wondering what is stage 1, you have come to the right place guys!

Stage 1 is the stage, you need to understand the gravity of Your future life, the person you want to be with, then the pressure from parents, and oh i forgot 80% of work in stage 1 is about noting down “qualities i want in my partner” , “Dos and Don’t”, “virgin-non virgin”, “smoker-nonsmoker”, “Rich- higher middle class, middle class, poor”, “lifestyle “, etc etc 

(P.S: General data collected, through legit whats app group called “Bitches for lifetime”/ “Stud boys”/ “Cousins”, etc)

If you ask me in which stage i am?

Still mentally in Stage 1 and my parents have completed stage 4 and already dreaming about their grandchildren!!

I hope so few of them can relate to me!

Okay, all of the above, Keeping it aside! 

Life isn’t joke, so need to get serious here!

Big and first question 

Why Marriage?

Oh, so many answers already.

Wait, just stop there and think for yourself now.

Marriage is commitment, life long

 (India has the lowest divorce rates - not because we are happy people, because we fear stigma called “Divorcee”)

Why do marriage should come with age number? (I know how Women’s body work, so please don’t answer me with the baby before 30 answer)

Why can’t marriage come within soul?

Why can’t marriage come after child? (Woahhh, did i hit the cord!??)

Funny it is, some people just get married and never bothered about all of the above!

I was just here to speak about my stage 2 experience! But I wandered around.

Keep reading and commenting and I might post something more interesting 😛😉 about my life time experience!

I am open to advices too.