Why this urge to write on the topic which is heavily received in Indian community. This is because I want people to read it. I want people to understand, there are two sides of coin, similarly there are two sides of a situation, pros and cons. We should at least give ourselves a chance to understand sides. I have seen my friends facing many situations, where only responsible for this is our social status, which embarks on us from the day we were born, what should we do, how we should do, along with whom should do, and many more questions.
My dear parents, we are your own children, born from your coitus, you made in love. Born with your genes, chromosomes. We are your children; you are worried about all small details about them. So why don’t you just listen to them, for once in your lifetime. May be it would be the time; you really need a new perspective about this situation. Will you listen, not more than 10 minutes? Thank you.
India society, was been built upon morals, principles from centuries and it still surviving. But as every generation takes its place, we forgot to bring the changes in our “SOCIETY”!
My guy friend, with a broken heart, sitting in a corner of his own house, and cries for hours, he is 28 years old! Why? He was in love with a girl, everything was well, until his family found out her height is clearly very short as compare to the guy, and she is heavily built! He was given assurance that he would get a girl much better looking, and all that perfect things a boy dreams about a girl of his life! He did fall for the fantasy and love of family, ending 2 years relationship, to get married to some other girl, perfectly suitable for him as per his parents. Enough tall, have very nice figure, earns well. They got engaged, only to his nightmare, that girl didn’t show any interest in him. When asked whether she is willing to marry him, she gave a poker face! They got married, went on honeymoon. Here, came the truth out! The girl didn’t let him touch her, told her she was forced into the marriage by her parents. She tried telling him the truth, but she knew she would suffer more! She loved someone else madly deeply! The end was here! Some called it karma, some called it destiny! But don’t you think so; it should be called with might and main!
It destroyed life of not one person, but 4 people. Your child is unhappy, how can you be happy in that marriage ceremony. Why would you not listen to that girl for once, for that boy for once? The mental pain they must be going through would be unbearable. This is not a story of single guy; it is a story of thousand guy and girls! Some end up in bad marriage, some end up in divorcee and some end up dead mentally as well as physically! After your child get to age 25, marriage isn’t solution for all problems they face!
Your daughter is sitting home, unemployed looking for job, let’s get her married. Your son is out partying every Saturday, Sunday, let’s get him married! Your daughter is always on phone; let’s get her married before something happens! Your Son, talks a lot on phone with someone, let’s get him married!
No, Marriage isn’t solution for all this so called problem of yours.
Your daughter wants better job, so she is home and trying to prepare for her dream job, give her time. Your son works 24/7 week days, he need some free time on weekends, give him his space. Your daughter is running face book page realted to fashion, she is fashion blogger with almost 2 thousand followers, she want to be entrepreneur, help her to be one. Your son is in love with the girl, who is like inspiration for him, a support system and they want to spend little time with each other because they both are busy in their job! Dad, Mom please Listen to your 25 year old.
Why don’t you just listen to your child? Because of the society? Who is this society, the day I became a girl, I am looking for this society! This society is nothing g but me, you, he, her, and them! These are people, who are going through same situation in their family, same heart break, same rule breaking steps! What they will think is important to you parents, than the happiness of your own child! You let your child die in pain, and so that everything is fine society, for what?
Dad, Mom Just listen to your 25year old?
-A about to be 25 year old!
Sphurti Sawant
